The Cost of Being “Nice” (And Why Kindness Is So Much More Powerful)

Let’s be honest: most of us were raised to be nice.

Especially as women, we were taught to smile, nod, say yes, be agreeable, and never—ever—make anyone uncomfortable. We were handed a script early on: if you’re sweet and selfless, you’ll be loved. You’ll be safe. You’ll belong.

But here’s the truth we’re finally ready to say out loud:

“Nice” isn’t always kind.

In fact, sometimes, it’s the opposite.